I’ve been on a bit of hiatus from my Blog for quite a while, but I recently received some words of encouragement to write again. I was offering some of my “words of wisdom” to a friend of mine and actually, she loved what I had to say! “You should write about that on your Blog” she suggested.
So here I am. Blogging about it.
While being on a wonderful holiday in Perth, Australia, my Sister-In-Law left an appropriately placed informational book on the bedside table of my room in her apartment. This publication was about moving into and through your mid-life and finding ways to deal with all that comes with that phase.
Being an “Evolving Empty Nester” I was completely open to reading this book feeling that it may assist me with my present transition in life. My current way of thinking was teetering between “Now what?”, “I have no idea”, “I miss my kids being at home so much”, “I don’t want to move on”, ” I just want that time again” and finally – “I’m on the downhill slope to the end of my life”. None of which are in anyway productive to a happy, enjoyable mid and older life.
My thought on mid-life in the past seemed to be on how my body would begin to fail in many ways – strength, appearance, and susceptibility to injury and illness, and that it was a slow downhill slope once you hit your 50’s.
But then I read the aforementioned book and developed a whole new outlook on the next “Empty Nesting” phase of my life. This judiciously placed book was a positive guide to recovering individuality and mapping out a second life. It made reference to time spans in our life and looking at what the reader had been able to do and achieve in that period of time.
Let’s make a positive prediction that I’m going to continue to live a pretty healthy and active lifestyle, just like I am now, and that I will be able to do anything that comes my way physically and mentally from 54 (now) to say 85. Then that’s still another 31 years of living ahead of me.
I then compared that upcoming 31 year time-span to another 31 year time period in my earlier life – when I was 19 to 50. Then I contemplated all the things I had fulfilled in that time, what I had achieved, experienced, and how I’ve grown as an individual. Let’s just put that in a super brief form – I’ve had many great jobs leading to a fun-filled career, found my wonderful husband, raised 2 amazing daughters, lived in 3 countries, rescued a dog, grown hugely as a person, and the list continues……
Slowly – a whole new realization came to me……….. I have a whole lifetime ahead of me and it’s not downhill at all!! (Unless of course, I allow that to happen).
Doesn’t this thought seem so much more positive in comparison to my former way of thinking that the next 31 years will be a downhill decline?
Now all I have to do is sit back, stop worrying that “time is marching on”, but just be-in-the-moment. Enjoy-life. Stop-worrying. I have a large expanse of time ahead of me. Who knows what delights and experiences I have to come and how I will develop and grow as a human??
My outlook on this next phase, my “Empty Nesting” phase, has changed towards a positive future, and that’s a great thing!
Stay tuned for my “whats coming”…….
Nineteen – or thereabouts……………………………………………………and 31 years later